Magical Party

I had so much fun putting together this little party, that I’ve decided I would like to style a party every month {someone send me a money tree}

The theme was white and magical. I wanted to keep it relatively gender neutral and of course a lot of fun {insert jumping into a ball pit}

The ball pit and slide kept the little ones entertained for hours, so us adults actually got to have a conversation with limited interruptions. #winning

All the children got to take home a personalised bag with their own little jar of play dough. Love party bags that don’t contain all the sugar!!

My husband dismantled two pallets to create a mini table and I painted the top white. The kids loved that it was mini and I loved that it was cheap. Winners all round.

The Pom Pom garland and fairy lights made an easy and simple centre piece and the blush broke up the white and grey, just slightly.

I created the balloon garland myself using 110 white balloons. I pumped them up using a hand pump, left a long noodle at the end of each balloon, then tied the balloons in pairs. I then used fishing line to tie them all together. At the end I tied in single balloons where there were gaps or where I wanted to make it look fuller. If you want to make one, just hit up YouTube. It was a lot easier than I thought.

Hope this inspires you!

xx

Slide & Ball Pit – @littleluxekidspartyhire

Plates, straws and cups – @cmc.gold

Custom biscuits – @littlebiskut

Personalised chocolate bars & stickers – @printandparty

Mirror sign – @tleafcollections

Parker bow tie – @hugoswardrobe

Play Dough – @doughlicious_playdough

Personalised canvas bags – @cottongiftco

Pom Pom Garland – @faithlane

Milk Glasses – Kmart

Living an organic life

Wellness for a lot of us is viewed as the ultimate goal. We all want to live authentic, happy, healthy lives, but at times it is seen as unattainable for a multitude of reasons. One of the main reasons is being time poor or an over commitment to certain things in our lives. Unfortunately our health is looked at, as something that will we start next week or Monday (because Mondays are always great for starting ‘new’ things). However, this is something that we really need to look at, as your health should be viewed as the number one priority in your life. If you don’t have your health, it’s hard to give everything else the attention it needs and live your best life. This may seem challenging, overwhelming or you might even be saying “but where do I start?” The best place to start is with a detoxification. Just like you ‘spring clean’ your home, you are going to spring clean your cupboard, fridge and maybe even have a look at what’s in your bathroom cupboard.

The reality is that your body is a temple and ultimately reflects the way you treat it. So my first tip would be, to be conscious of what you put inside it. The first thing you need to ditch is processed food. All that packaged food is full of preservatives, hidden chemicals, sugar, bad fats and salt. It’s toxic. This is just weighing your body down. Once you have got rid of all those nasties, then you can start to nourish your body with wholesome foods, fresh and organic (if you can). I buy all my organic fruit and veg from Woolworths (make sure you look for the certified organic symbol). I also buy a majority of my organic cupboard and pantry essentials from Woolworths too. This isn’t to say that everything I buy is organic. If it isn’t, I make sure I read the labels and the first thing I look at is, can I pronounce that word? Would my nana know what that is? If the answer is no, I generally pop it back on the shelf or go to good old google to check exactly what it is. This doesn’t mean that every item you buy something , I want you to stop and read all the labels at once. Just start small. Look at three items you currently buy and check out what is in them and if they are full of nasties, look for a healthier alternative. In saying this, I don’t tend to buy a lot of pantry items. Another rule I have is to stick to the outskirts of the grocery store. Most of the wholesome foods are found on the outskirts like fruit/veg, fish, meat etc. I also make a lot of things myself, like sauces for pasta, pesto, stock, cookies, muffins, taco seasoning etc. If you think this is hard or takes too much time, it really doesn’t. Most of the sauces only require a few ingredients and a food processor/blender and then you don’t have all the nasty preservatives, chemicals and sugar that are in a majority of the sauces you buy on the shelf. If you’re after easy recipes or lunchbox ideas, I generally pop a few on my stories or just ask.

A big one for me is mindfulness. When was the last time you just sat with your thoughts or actually tuned in to your body? You might be thinking, I am a mum, I can’t even pee in peace, how can I sit with my thoughts? True. But you can make time. I try and get up 30 mins to an hour before the kids and sit with my hot cup of tea in the sun and just enjoy the silence and listen as thoughts go in and out of my mind. Or maybe you could do it before going to bed or once the kids are asleep. It only takes 20 mins and it does wonders, such as reduces stress and improves mental clarity (let’s face it, I need all the mental clarity I can get). If just sitting silently isn’t for you, try listen to relaxing music or a meditation track (I sometimes use the app Headspace, it’s free). It can be daunting and you can feel as though you are wasting time just sitting there, but believe me, you are not.

Last but not least skin care. This was one of the things I implemented first, but gradually. I trialed new products over months, to see what would work for me and my family. I was absolutely alarmed at the amount of chemicals found in everyday products we place on our skin and our children’s and the amount that our skin actually absorbs (64% of what we put on it). I also realised that I didn’t need numerous products. So I went back to basics. For the kids I use three products. Organic coconut oil (from Woolworths), Little Bairn Organic Massage Oil and Chamonix Rain Organics body wash and shampoo. (I pop the coconut oil in the bath water, so they don’t get dry skin and also use it on cradle cap or the first sign of nappy rash).

For me I use a charcoal sponge to clean my face morning and night, dry body brush before having a shower, Kora Organics face exfoliate (twice a week) and moisturizer morning and night and Edible Beauty oil every night. For make-up, I use Inka mascara and I am yet to find a foundation that I feel works the best for my skin. I use Mukti shampoo and conditioner for my hair and coconut oil as a treatment once a week. (Since I’ve started dying my hair again, I also use salon products on my hair once a month). The first change I made was a natural deodorant that didn’t contain aluminum. I use Black Chicken deodorant paste and I haven’t looked back. For a skin moisturizer I use coconut oil, Eco Tan gradual tan or Welda skin food. I have quite sensitive skin and all of these products have been amazing. Last but not least I use WOT NOT sunscreen. It’s quite thick but I have found that it works the best and doesn’t have a funny smell. I purchase all my skin care products from Nourished Life, as its one place that stocks a majority of the products I use and they have free shipping, winning!

My biggest piece of advice would be small steps. I’m still learning and implementing new things every week. For me, I couldn’t afford to throw away all my beauty products straight away and buy all new and the thought of reading every label and finding new products that were natural, seemed rather daunting and time consuming. It was also a bit of trial and error. Some things that were recommended by so many, didn’t work for me or fit our lifestyle. Take it easy and implement small steps or if you feel comfortable, take a big leap. Remember living organic is not just an ‘all’ or ‘nothing’ approach. Even the slightest changes can make a big difference!

New habits take time. Be kind to yourself xx

 

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Frankie and Co my fav clothing store {not sponsored, just love}

When it comes to shopping, I’m an addict. I’ve always loved wandering the shopping centre aimlessly, admiring all the clothes and accessories and finding the perfect outfit or that bargain buy.

Since having my kids my love of shopping hasn’t changed but the way I’d prefer to shop has. Shopping now takes place in my pjs or comfiest tracksuit, with a tea or wine in hand, as I scroll through the endless amounts of clothing and accessories available right at my fingertip. But now there is the added excitement of trying to find free shipping {the best feeling}

So since my online shopping addiction emerged, I’ve stubbled across some gorgeous brands that are my go to when ever I’m looking for a new outfit or just something to make me feel like I’m back in trend. My absolutely fav would have to be Frankie and Co for so many reasons! They stock fashionable maternity/breastfeeding clothes, divine everyday pieces, comfy basics, constantly updating and adding and there so stylish!

Here are some of my favourite pieces from Frankie and Co and over the next few months I’m sure there will be more #obsessed

http://www.frankieandco.com.au

Much love xx

Izabel top in white.

So comfortable and light. Perfect for spring!

Karli cardigan. Matches anything!

Blush Cami. Gorgeous Color and a spring staple.

Discounts

It’s my birthday month, so I thought I would celebrate by giving you discounts to some of my favourite Instagram shops! Just use code – onemumsstyle at any of the shops below to receive your discount.

Receive 10% off @tinysproutkids

Receive 15% off all block products @goldrabbitandco

Receive 15% off @happygoduckystore

Receive 20% off @mae_and_rae

Receive 25% off @tleafcollections

Receive 25% off @printandparty

Receive 30% off @babybowclub

Receive 10% off @two.darlings

Receive 10% off @snugglehunnykids

Happy shopping!!

xx

We no longer have a village

In today’s society there is so much pressure put on us mums. Or, is it simply us that have put this pressure on ourselves. Why must we feel the need to do it all? Be a good mother, a caring beautiful wife, continue to excel in our profession, all while raising a small household. In my experience something has to give and it’s normally us Mothers that end up suffering.

We no longer have a village around us to guide us when it comes to breastfeeding, sleeping or mothering in general. Most of us no longer are friends with everyone in our street. So gone are the days when your neighbour would bring over a home cooked meal or watch your kids play while you took a nap. We are either isolated from our extended family or they are working full time jobs and therefore are no longer able to help out as much as they would like. Sure they can call and give us advice but is it really the same as having someone there?

So instead, we get our information from health professionals, internet forums or good old Dr Google. In my experience, this just sets Mother’s up to fail, as it all becomes rather overwhelming. Every stage our babies go through is viewed as a problem and there is always a solution on how to “fix” this problem. But if that doesn’t work for you and your baby, you are left with a feeling of failure. This way of thinking can easily make you feel like your spiralling out of control and not a fit mother. But we have to find a solution because need the sleep, we need them to eat and we need a quick fix to their behaviours because we have to get back to doing it all. So we buy all the books, try all the programs, in the hope that we can ‘fix’ it and continue to do it all.

I tried this with my first baby. When he didn’t sleep I googled it, I read books, bought two programs and joined forums but nothing seemed to work. He just didn’t sleep. So I was left thinking what have I done wrong? Did I hold him too much? Teach him bad sleeping habits? I eventually realised that I needed to parent and respond to my son in a way that worked for us. If I had to get up and reassure him three times a night, then that’s what I did. If he needed to come into our bed at 3am, then that’s what we did. I decided to take a step back from work and give my full attention to being a wife and a good mum. This doesn’t mean I left work or didn’t fulfil my job. I just made sure that my family came first. I took away the pressure to do it all and give it all 110% and I’m so glad I did.

This time is so fleeting and before you know it, they will no longer need you like they need you today and that’s the day that I will go back to giving my profession all my attention. This time really is a blimp in the scheme of your life, so choose what makes you happy.

So mamma, hold your newborn as much as you want to. You won’t spoil them. Your toddler will go through stages of not eating anything but cheese and past, they won’t starve and it won’t last forever. {Just try not to cry when they say the meal is horrible or looks disgusting!} When it comes to sleep, some babies find it extremely easy and others it takes a lot longer, and that’s ok. They will get it eventually and it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you or your baby! And above everything else, go with your instinct. Listen to all the advice, but do what feels right for you and your baby.

To your children you are the perfect mother, so what ever you need to do to get through with a small amount of sanity left, do it. Eat the chocolate, drink the coffee, binge TV! Look after yourself mamma, because you deserve it.

xx

Everyone has a story

When you look at me now, I look like any other ordinary Mum who has been blessed with two beautiful, happy, healthy children. Some might say, a fertile women. But that’s not the whole story.

I once was that woman crying on the bathroom floor, asking when will it be my turn? I was the one who’s heart broke into a million pieces as I left each baby shower, yearning for me to be the one with the bump awaiting the arrival of my own baby. I was the one who constantly tried every gadget, remedy and drug only to be left with a broken heart and lots of doctors appointments that only made the hollowness even deeper.

I remember feeling empty, lost, longing and desperate, but now that I am on the other side the emotion is a bit like a haze, it’s still there and it will always be apart of my journey but I can’t quite feel or encapture the raw pain as deeply as I did on those dark and painful days.

Everyone’s story is so different and so is there outcome, but I do wish I could tell my past self that it will be ok, it will work out. You will be lucky enough to experience the amazingness that is motherhood. However I do understand for so many women they don’t get this happy ending and my heart goes out to them, as I can’t even begin to imagine how they feel. To all those women out there trying to conceive whether it’s your first child, second or third, I’m sending you all the baby dust and positive vibes.

Just remember everyone has a story and everyone has been on a journey.

Much love xx

A letter to my husband.

To my husband,

I want you to know that our life wont always be the imperfectly perfect chaos it is now.

We won’t always be woken throughout the night by our sleepless toddler and baby cries.

We won’t always be interrupted by an inquisitive three year old asking us why and how multiple times a minute and lose our train of thought.

Dinner time won’t always consist of food on the floor, begging our toddler to just eat while I have a baby attached to me rocking backwards and forward eating my food standing.

We won’t always be this tired and overwhelmed and one day, date nights will exist again.

There will be a day when our children are all grown and they won’t need us like they do today. They will have friends, school, sports, things that don’t involve us. This will be a new chapter in our lives and I’m sure when that time comes, it will be a special chapter. But at the moment we have all this. All this magic, joy and love.

One day we will miss all this chaos. The morning snuggles, tiny hands wrapping around us, the innocence. The fact that right now our little ones rely on us to be their teacher, nurse, protector and best friend, but one day this will not be the case.

There will be a day when our kids no longer want to have lounge room dance parties or movie nights with us.

We will miss reading them stories, their infectious laughter and weekends spent at the park.

So let’s be in this together. Let’s enjoy every moment. Embrace the crazy chaos, because I know my darling, one day we will truly miss this amazing chapter in our lives.